kiriamaya:

ineedtothinkofatitle:

dear caretakers of children: stop telling kids “I don’t care who started it!”. you’re teaching children to ignore unequal power balances. that leads to legitimate belief in things like reverse racism, misandry, heterophobia, etc. you’re teaching children that it’s wrong to retaliate when they are wronged. “who started it” is very, very relevant.

THANK YOU

Also, when you punish both of them for “making a scene” instead of figuring out who started it, you’re turning it into a chicken game. One of them will back down to prevent causing a scene, and it will most likely be the same person every time, allowing the winner of the chicken game to be a bully and get away with it. 

kiriamaya:

ineedtothinkofatitle:

dear caretakers of children: stop telling kids “I don’t care who started it!”. you’re teaching children to ignore unequal power balances. that leads to legitimate belief in things like reverse racism, misandry, heterophobia, etc. you’re teaching children that it’s wrong to retaliate when they are wronged. “who started it” is very, very relevant.

THANK YOU

thehufflepuffwholeaptthroughtime:

I think I’ve got a solution for parents who think that their young child’s official diagnosis of Autism is similar to “losing” their child, or learning that their child is going to “become an emotionless robot who can’t say ‘I love you Mommy/Daddy”- and in the worst case scenario eventually reaching the point of planning to kill the autistic child/teenager/adult who lives with them.

  1. Give your autistic child to someone who will love them, and doesn’t think along the incredibly selfish lines of “This is the worst thing ever to happen to ~me~.”
  2. Get a puppy/dog that will love you the exact “normal way” that you expect.

"There are so many problems in our society because children aren’t spanked anymore."

theconcealedweapon:

In all the time that I have had a facebook account, I have never seen anyone post anything anti-spanking, except for those who I have specifically met online through youth rights groups. I see pro-spanking posts all the time, with not a single person questioning it. 

If it were actually true that spanking isn’t popular anymore, people would not be as quick to post something pro-spanking, because they’d have a minority opinion and they’d be afraid of people not wanting to be their friends anymore for admitting to supporting child abuse, while anti-spanking posts would be everywhere, with many people agreeing and most people who disagree being afraid to admit to it. But they’re actually able to post all the pro-spanking shit that they want, while anti-spanking people are the ones afraid of being outcasted.

In a society where most parents spank and can openly brag about it, can you really blame any problems on not enough spanking?

Adult Privilege is…

bythelion:

Not being teenagers whining about adult privilege, because that’s all that the subject of “adult privilege” is.
Whiny teenagers.

Why is your post tagged “unpopular opinion”? That’s one of the most popular beliefs in existence.

feministrocker:

TW: suicide

adultprivilege:

summertimelovegirl:

boredomandstuff:

southparksexcanons:

alright, tumblr, i have a juicy new story for you.

heres the story: in lake central high school, in a town very near to mine, former student Mike Doss’s father recently passed away. in order to sustain his family he had to quit school and get a job. he only quit school THIS PAST FEBRUARY.

very recently, Doss killed himself. the students of lake central high school repeatedly asked the staff to have a moment of silence on the morning announcements and were told no every time. so they arranged this VERY PEACEFUL sit-in of about 200 students, shown in the video above, to demand a moment of silence. (another student also committed suicide after this sit in, but there is uncertainty over whether there is a connection between the two deaths.)

the video fluctuates in volume and is often hard to hear, so you may want to turn it up.

it opens with many students yelling for silence so the standing female student can request a moment of silence. not only does the principal shoot her down, he doesnt even acknowledge her, telling her “youre not in charge here, i am” and asking the students coldly to take out their school ids. this causes a little bit of a commotion, but when the principal asks for their attention, they give it.

he then begins to express his “disappointment”, to which another student responds, “yeah, were disappointed in you too”. there is NO VIOLENCE AND NO DISRUPTION from this student. the rest of the students cheer for him, but the principal immediately asks police, who are standing nearby, to ARREST THE STUDENT. the other students are very passive and nonviolent, even moving out of the way of the policemen.

the principal then asks for their attention again - WHICH THEY GIVE - and begins to, and quite condescendingly i might add, tell the students that he thinks theyre here because they think its a JOKE! of course, the students are rightly pissed off about this. one girl even yells, “you would do it for anyone else!”

the video ends with a shot of the policemen DRAGGING the young male student away, and the rest of the sit-in cheering for him for standing his ground.

this article in the northwest indiana times gives a little bit more information about the situation, and also caps a note the principal sent to parents about the suicide/sit-in and how the students “did not handle it properly”. the note reads:

"While I refer to what took place Wednesday as a sit-in, it was an incident that involved many mixed emotions, including my own. There is no easy solution when 200 kids decide to create a sit-in within the middle of the school in order to demonstrate a point of view, while making demands. Options could range from yell (and yell louder), make threats, have police arrest them all, suspend them all … etc., all this while trying to reason with emotional teenagers who have defined a personal purpose, but who also need to get back to class.”

get back to class? GET BACK TO CLASS??? these kids are upset and emotional and you want them to GET BACK TO CLASS?????

and what about the option of, i dont know, actually talking to the human beings in front of you, who are hurt and upset and right in their cause? this man has a bachelors degree from wabash college in english, language arts, and teacher education, a masters degree from indiana university in educational leadership and administration, and has been the dean of students at munster high school and the assistant principal/athletic director at lake central high school before becoming the principal. yet, with all this education, he refuses to acknowledge the situation, even going on to call the sit-in a DISRUPTION!

the note continues,

"We have always practiced a different protocol of acknowledgment for a suicide death, which involves minimal publicity in order to not glorify the suicide.

the reason the school would not give this poor kid an announcement and moment of silence is because THEY DONT WANT TO GLORIFY SUICIDE. if a student dies in a car crash and they make an announcement, that doesnt glorify car crashes, and if a student is murdered and they make an announcement, that doesnt glorify murder. but apparently everyone in the public school system has their head shoved too far up their ass to realize that KIDS DO NOT KILL THEMSELVES FOR THE ATTENTION.

and after all this, the principal has the AUDACITY to say that, even after all these students have been through, they need to “get back to class”.

so, what am i asking from you, tumblr? SPREAD THIS LIKE WILDFIRE. you wanna know whats wrong with the american school system? its not the pressure, or the grades, or the college. its refusing to acknowledge that kids are human beings, too, with minds and emotions of their own in the first place.

so please, please, please signal boost. tell everyone you know what happened. its making big news in the area, but thats about it. however, this happens everywhere, all the time, and im about sick of it. people need to know, and this is a giant community.

spread this for mike doss, the other unnamed student, and every other child who has committed suicide and gotten no acknowledgement because the schools “dont want to glorify suicide”. its time to do something about it.

some other articles on the sit-in:

http://www.lakecentralnews.com/news/2014/04/02/student-protest-leads-to-grief-forum-possible-memorial-service/#prettyPhoto

http://abclocal.go.com/wls/story?section=news/local/indiana&id=9490598

http://posttrib.suntimes.com/26612911-537/sit-in-over-ex-students-suicide-called-disruption.html

Remind me to never read youtube comments again, they just make me angry

are you fucking kidding me?!?! this has me pissed beyond anything ive ever been pissed at before!!!!!!!! this principal is a complete moron!!!!!

-Wedway

The sad thing is, if Daily Caller decided to cover this, the people there would probably be defending the principal over the students. That’s how hypocritical they are. They are so usually so quick to condemn public schools (and blame it on our “progressive” society) - until cases of students standing up for their rights come up. Then, suddenly, it’s all the kids’ fault (and, again, it’s our “progressive” society that’s to blame).

Seriously, as much as they hate public schools, they hate children who stand up for their rights even more. Unless, of course, it’s a case of a homophobic/transphobic bully standing up for their “right” to bully LGBTIQA people.

http://undercoverrevolutionary.tumblr.com/post/82480071643/adultprivilege-next-time-someone-uses-youre

undercoverrevolutionary:

adultprivilege:

Next time someone uses “you’re young and your brain hasn’t fully developed yet” as an excuse to ignore me, I’m going to say “well science says that the brain deteriorates as we age and you’re older than I am.”

I guess that could be considered fighting fire with fire and I’ll probably never have to use it, but I thought it was clever.

That is ableist though (from both directions). Brain “deterioration” or level of intellectual function shouldn’t be used as a reason to ignore people anymore than youth should be used as a reason to ignore people.

We need be keeping this in mind, when we discuss this sort of stuff.

feministrocker:

heartofacrow:

lornrocks:

jesuotaku:

rivirambles:

amischiefofmice:

PRAISE BE

Wendy’s is doing the same thing.
Will wonders never cease.

Reblogging this because it keeps showing up on my dash and I keep not-quite raining on the parade, but it seems like everyone thinks this means something different than it does, so I guess I’ll rain on it a little bit.I’m afraid this motion has nothing to do with conquering the gender binary or whatever Tumblr is really happy about to be reblogging it so heavily. It’s not about making little children feel like they can get whichever toy they prefer. It’d be nice if it was, but I’d be shocked if that was the case.No, the girl toy here is a My Little Pony. Which means that the *real* reason for this notice is that a bunch of bronies, as there are bajillions of photos and videos of them doing, are coming into fast food restaurants and buying several happy meals. They threw pissy fits when asked if they wanted the “boy or girl” toy, insisting that My Little Pony isn’t for girls or whatever, again, only saying this because of overwhelming evidence that bronies do this shit. Management eventually has enough of it, asks employees to just ask if people want Skylanders or My Little Pony so they won’t have any more disgusted bronies getting mad that their precious fandom is targeted at crappy dumb little girls.
So the short version is: this little paper unfortunately means the exact opposite of what you think it means, socially speaking. It was put up because grown-ass men get all pissy when it’s suggested that they like a thing for girls.
Proof: http://www.equestriadaily.com/2014/04/editorial-how-to-buy-mcdonalds-ponies.html <— this was posted on the net’s biggest brony hive on April 10, 2014. So yeah, this is sadly not about anything else but how awful bronies are, sorry.

Oh, ew.

Grooooooss

How To Be Femmephobic While Liking Traditionally Feminine Things

I don’t want to take away from the fact that it’s being somewhat progressive - and that, hopefully, people will start to apply this to other areas.
But it’s adult privilege and male privilege that some McDonald’s restaurants were compelled to do this because of objection from adult men. They didn’t do it for little girls. They didn’t do it for little boys, either. And they didn’t even do it for adult women. It took a fandom comprised of adult men to make the move.

feministrocker:

heartofacrow:

lornrocks:

jesuotaku:

rivirambles:

amischiefofmice:

PRAISE BE

Wendy’s is doing the same thing.

Will wonders never cease.

Reblogging this because it keeps showing up on my dash and I keep not-quite raining on the parade, but it seems like everyone thinks this means something different than it does, so I guess I’ll rain on it a little bit.

I’m afraid this motion has nothing to do with conquering the gender binary or whatever Tumblr is really happy about to be reblogging it so heavily. It’s not about making little children feel like they can get whichever toy they prefer. It’d be nice if it was, but I’d be shocked if that was the case.

No, the girl toy here is a My Little Pony. Which means that the *real* reason for this notice is that a bunch of bronies, as there are bajillions of photos and videos of them doing, are coming into fast food restaurants and buying several happy meals. They threw pissy fits when asked if they wanted the “boy or girl” toy, insisting that My Little Pony isn’t for girls or whatever, again, only saying this because of overwhelming evidence that bronies do this shit. Management eventually has enough of it, asks employees to just ask if people want Skylanders or My Little Pony so they won’t have any more disgusted bronies getting mad that their precious fandom is targeted at crappy dumb little girls.

So the short version is: this little paper unfortunately means the exact opposite of what you think it means, socially speaking. It was put up because grown-ass men get all pissy when it’s suggested that they like a thing for girls.

Proof: http://www.equestriadaily.com/2014/04/editorial-how-to-buy-mcdonalds-ponies.html <— this was posted on the net’s biggest brony hive on April 10, 2014. So yeah, this is sadly not about anything else but how awful bronies are, sorry.

Oh, ew.

Grooooooss

How To Be Femmephobic While Liking Traditionally Feminine Things

I don’t want to take away from the fact that it’s being somewhat progressive - and that, hopefully, people will start to apply this to other areas.

But it’s adult privilege and male privilege that some McDonald’s restaurants were compelled to do this because of objection from adult men. They didn’t do it for little girls. They didn’t do it for little boys, either. And they didn’t even do it for adult women. It took a fandom comprised of adult men to make the move.

(Source: scarfetsu)

theconcealedweapon:

It’s easy to call yourself respectful when you get to decide what it means to be respectful and who deserves respect.
It’s easy to call yourself respectful when you can use your privilege and your social skills to disrespect people in a socially acceptable way.
It’s easy to call yourself respectful when your disrespect goes unnoticed because society considers the people you disrespect to be subhuman, while society considers people like you to be deserving of unconditional respect.
It’s easy to call yourself respectful when the people you disrespect are expected to never be angry and to always use the most polite tone, or else they’re the ones considered disrespectful and deserving of your disrespect.
It’s easy to call yourself respectful when you’re not considered disrespectful just for defending yourself, while other people are.
It’s easy to call yourself respectful when anyone who disagrees with you is afraid of being punished or being outcasted.
It’s easy to call yourself respectful and simply not be, just like Nice Guy Syndrome. Disrespectful people rarely identify themselves. 
If someone who was spanked called you a child abuser for supporting spanking, you’d most likely believe that they’re the most disrespectful person in the world, which completely disproves your argument that spanking causes people to be respectful.

theconcealedweapon:

It’s easy to call yourself respectful when you get to decide what it means to be respectful and who deserves respect.

It’s easy to call yourself respectful when you can use your privilege and your social skills to disrespect people in a socially acceptable way.

It’s easy to call yourself respectful when your disrespect goes unnoticed because society considers the people you disrespect to be subhuman, while society considers people like you to be deserving of unconditional respect.

It’s easy to call yourself respectful when the people you disrespect are expected to never be angry and to always use the most polite tone, or else they’re the ones considered disrespectful and deserving of your disrespect.

It’s easy to call yourself respectful when you’re not considered disrespectful just for defending yourself, while other people are.

It’s easy to call yourself respectful when anyone who disagrees with you is afraid of being punished or being outcasted.

It’s easy to call yourself respectful and simply not be, just like Nice Guy Syndrome. Disrespectful people rarely identify themselves. 

If someone who was spanked called you a child abuser for supporting spanking, you’d most likely believe that they’re the most disrespectful person in the world, which completely disproves your argument that spanking causes people to be respectful.

"It’s not fair. Parents can’t spank their children anymore without going to jail for it."

- parents who spank and have never been in jail for it, and still can’t see the flaw in their logic