What Would You Consider To Be Acceptable Discipline?

littlelolliebean:

adultprivilege:

I can’t speak for all the mods here; I can only speak for myself. But, anyway, here is where I stand.

I think children should be taught basic rules in manners and etiquette. They should be taught to say “please” and “thank you”, and they should be taught to apologize when they do something wrong….

Just IMHO and I realise I’m childfree so coming from a place of pure philosophy.

I am opposed to time-outs. But I suppose it depends on how you handle them, I don’t approve of sending a child to the corner to think about what they’ve done because it’s disrespectful and ineffective - you really think a child’s gonna be sat alone on the time out chair thinking about their misbehaviour and formulating a plan for better future behaviour? Because I don’t. I think it’s more likely they’re gonna be thinking how mean Mom/Dad is and figuring out how not to get caught next time.

I love this site for alternatives to punishment, any punishment.

http://www.ahaparenting.com/BlogRetrieve.aspx?PostID=308761&A=SearchResult&SearchID=8342128&ObjectID=308761&ObjectType=55

draconess25 asked
I just gotta say thanks for being out here and doing what you're doing. My best friend and I just had a major blowout over the topic of corporal punishment. I thought that, being as she was abused as a child, she would have some sense and agree that corporal punishment is child abuse. I've known her since 3rd grade and while she never had bruises, she would come to me crying. But I guess now she's just another adult slave to a violent and obedient society.

TW: corporal punishment

I’m so glad that we could help. And, yeah, I completely sympathize with you. I really don’t understand that type of mentality, myself. I’ve been treated badly in some of the foster homes that I’ve been to - and is one of the reasons why I tend to be very sensitive to harsh criticism, name-calling, and insults. And this is something that I would never wish to impose onto other kids. I would not want for kids today to have to deal with some of the crap that I had to deal with growing up. I really do hope that your best friend comes to her senses.

~ Feminist Rocker/Luvs A7X

What Would You Consider To Be Acceptable Discipline?

I can’t speak for all the mods here; I can only speak for myself. But, anyway, here is where I stand.

I think children should be taught basic rules in manners and etiquette. They should be taught to say “please” and “thank you”, and they should be taught to apologize when they do something wrong. I think the most important thing you can teach kids is to have empathy… to treat other people how they’d like to be treated.

I’m not opposed to a time-out, if children act up and engage in rude behaviour. Children could use a few minutes to sit in the corner and think of what they’ve done wrong. It’s also important to talk with them, and explain to them why certain behaviours are wrong. Ask them: “How would you feel if someone pulled your hair?”

Of course, safety is also important. Overall, children should be taught basic skills of how to interact with other people. They shouldn’t have to conform to what society deems “normal”, but they should learn basic skills of how to treat other people. Because I think the most important thing kids should be taught is to be kind to others.

~ Feminist Rocker/Luvs A7X

It’s important to care about child abuse no matter where it happens, not just when it affects children in America. 

It’s important to care about child abuse no matter where it happens, not just when it affects children in America. 

Spanking isn't parenting; it's child abuse.

kattahj:

adultprivilege:

Just shared this article on facebook. Couldn’t give less of a fuck if I tried about any unfriending or arguements that may ensue.

The fact that this disgusting shitbag is outside of prison, let alone not kicked off of the field, makes my blood boil on end. Seriously Fuck Pro Spankers!

I’ve never understood why the notion of “don’t hit people who are smaller and weaker than you” suddenly doesn’t apply when those people are children.

For the record, while the ban in Sweden came into effect the year before I was born, I was sometimes hit. I never once felt that I deserved it. When my parents bothered to talk things through with me, or when I felt that what I had done had actually scared them, that’s when I voluntarily stopped doing it. Not for any punishment.

And as someone who works with children, I’m so relieved to have legal and policy limits to punishments. The notion that I could, when I’m furious at a kid for something, coolly decide that a spanking would be “fair” is laughable. It would be me hitting someone in anger, plain and simple, and that is not how we solve conflicts, children!

The rest of the Western world could learn a thing or two from Sweden.

~ Feminist Rocker/Luvs A7X

nikkianni asked
When I tell people I'm only 13 and trying to get into college by next year, I get told that I'll miss out on the "college experience", that my brain is still not developed, and that I won't get in to Ivy League because of my age. Whenever I walk into a book store and ask about science books, "What grade level, honey?" Fuck that. Regardless of my age, I am a cool motherfucker that can do whatever she wants. There's stupid adults, stupid children and stupid old people. I'm not one of them!

Uh, I wouldn’t use the word “stupid” since that is borderline ableist - but, aside from that, I completely agree with you. People should not be condescending to you because of your age. You do have a right to progress at your own rate.

~ Feminist Rocker/Luvs A7X

queerfat asked
I wish that I, in my curious and abusive youth, had resources such at yours at the ready to stimulate my intellectual deconstruction of hierarchical bullshit at an earlier age.

Yeah, I totally understand what you mean.

~ Feminist Rocker/Luvs A7X

krissmisseveryday:

Everyone agrees that #childabuse is wrong. The problem is that we don’t see what we do as abusive. #cultureofviolence #adultism #adultprivilege #victimblaming #adrianpeterson

krissmisseveryday:

Everyone agrees that #childabuse is wrong. The problem is that we don’t see what we do as abusive.
#cultureofviolence #adultism #adultprivilege #victimblaming #adrianpeterson

krissmisseveryday:

Just because our culture gets children to accept #abuse as OK, doesn’t mean that it is OK. #adultism
adultprivilege

krissmisseveryday:

Just because our culture gets children to accept #abuse as OK, doesn’t mean that it is OK. #adultism

mommytojoshie asked
I just wanted to come and tell you that I love your blog. I sometimes feel like I'm the only one who feels so strongly about children deserving respect.

Aw, thank you so much for the nice comments! <3

~ Feminist Rocker/Luvs A7X