stop treating disabled people like ‘children’
stop being condescending to children too while you’re at it
I once had a neurotypical therapist (who was supposed to be helping 12-year-old me work through depression related to bullying/emotional abuse at school) tell me “What have you got to be sad about! You’re young! You should be happy!”
common intersection between ageism and ableism
YOU DON’T OWE YOUR PARENTS ANYTHING
IT WAS THEIR CHOICE TO HAVE, KEEP AND RAISE YOU BUT IT WASN’T YOUR CHOICE TO BE THEIR CHILD
ANY EXPECTATIONS OR IDEALS THEY TRY AND ENFORCE ON YOU ARE BULLSHIT IF YOU DO NOT AGREE WITH THEM
THEY SHOULD ACCEPT THEIR CHILD AS THEY ARE NOT JUDGE THEM ON A MINOR DETAIL THAT DOESN’T AFFECT THEIR LIFE
DO NOT FEEL BAD IF YOU AREN’T THE PERFECT CHILD YOUR PARENTS THINK YOU SHOULD BE
This is all over feminist advice columns, and stuff having to do with teaching kids appropriate boundaries and how to respect people and stuff. One article I saw recently even said it’s really important to ignore kids when they’re having tantrums and not using words, in the name of teaching them to have appropriate boundaries.
I think screaming and crying is a pretty clearly expressed boundary, really. And pretending not to understand something you actually do understand full well is not a good way to teach kids to respect communication and such.
And just… Sometimes I don’t have words. Sometimes I have words, but need help being able to use them in any meaningful way.
There is *no* situation in which someone telling me “use your words” would help.
"Use your words" is something that adults commonly tell children.
what youth rights advocates say: society treats young people like shit and needs to start respecting their agency and basic human rights.
what people seem to hear: there should be no schools and a baby should be president.